wat the hell is wrong with the people of this country man!! especially those who call themselves parents! i've come of age where me and my friends around are thinking of marriage, and just about everyone has one common problem - parents! its parents, society, religion, caste, yada yada yada that seem to determine the fate of a couple working out. things like love, compatability, comfort - all these just dont matter at all. 'you're not a brahmin, my family has been for centuries, how can i marry you?', 'i'm a muslin and you're a hindu, you have any idea how society will consider this?' oh god i say.. wat the hell are people talking about?? Don't their feelings matter at all? does it only come down to asking stupid questions like this? i really really just dont get this one thing about this country. There are some amazing things about this place, but no matter how much we progress, looks like this will remain like this all the time. I remember when I was young, I used to chat with this one friend of mine about marriage and things, and I used to tell her, that no matter what I will never let anyone or anything else determine who I get married to. This girl agreed with what I was saying and used to advocate the same notion, and guess what? She got married good old Indian arranged marriage Ishtyle! And its not just her, so many other people around me are going that way. I really used to think that my generation will change this about India. I can understand where our parents come from, but I didn't want to walk that line. But looks like culture is culture and people will just continue doing this. I wonder if the next generation at least will change this whole 'get married to someone you've never met in your life, coz guess what? as long as things like caste and kundli match - they are made for each other' what!!!!
Well, India does has a low divorce rate. So you think this arranged marriage thing has a say in the divorce rate? Look at it this way, the poor idiots didn't have a say in ending up with each other, you think they'l have a say in getting out of it?? Society bloody decides that also. Its just tabboo to seperate, so no matter how much you dont get along, you just have to put up with what you were forced to get into. Is this life?? I dont understand freedom and democracy and concepts like that, if you're just forced to live your life based on what other people tell you for the rest of your life. I mean, really, its just colonization again.. and worse, by your own people this time!!! Its just really terrible. The number of people I regularly keep seeing hurting around, its just crazy. Either they are hurting because it didn't work out because of society, or, hehe, because it did! Its the same dam story whether you couldn't married or were forced into marriage. At least if you made the decision on your own, you can take responsibility and decide to be in it or walk out if it doesnt work. You dont need to be a slave all your life.
I really am totally against this whole concept of arranged marriage and being forced into something just because of the people around! One should never get into something one doesnt like - or so I thought was the definition of our freedom!
Anyway, to all my friends who have had to undergo the pains caused to them, not by their lovers, but by a bunch of loonies - you have my sympathies.
